“Butterflies” in the stomach, intrusive thoughts, fantasies about imaginary scenarios, mood swings from euphoria to despair… aren't these all the familiar hallmarks of new love? Not quite. These are characteristics of the psychological state of “limerence,” also known as obsessive, passionate or addictive love that can become unhealthy.

Millions of people experience limerence at some point in their life. In this book, neuroscientist Tom Bellamy explores advances in neuroscience since the term was coined in the 1970s, and sheds light on this little-understood element of the human experience.

Discover:

• what drives limerence
• how to recognize limerence in yourself and others
• how to manage the phases of addiction to another person
• how to move past it to sustain longer, more fulfilling relationships.

With supportive advice about next steps, this book will help readers struggling with unwanted feelings to find emotional equilibrium. Rooted in neuroscience, this book offers practical guidance for those experiencing obsessive love and seeking a path to a healthy relationship.

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• Author: Tom Bellamy Ph.D.
• Publisher: St. Martin's Essentials
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 288
• ISBN-13: 9781250392671

We are surrounded by tribes: political, professional, online, ideological. Each offer belonging at a price. Join, and you risk dissolving into a ready-made identity. Refuse, and you risk drifting into isolation. Either way, the modern person is pulled toward the same end: forming a fragmented self that is easier to manage, easier to sell to, and easier to recruit. In The One and the Ninety-Nine, bestselling author Luke Burgis argues that the great crisis of our time is not simply polarization or loneliness, but a crisis of formation: it's difficult to form an identity that is solid enough to withstand the pressure of the crowd, and modern institutions don't reward the effort. Drawing from psychology, philosophy, and personal experience, Burgis shows how groups shape our desires, how "social contagion" spreads through families and institutions, and why the hunger to belong can turn ordinary people into instruments of movements they barely understand. This book is about the missing skill that makes real community possible: learning how to remain oneself while staying connected to others. Burgis offers a practical map for recognizing false belonging, escaping coercive dynamics, and passing through the rites of passage that produce people with integrity and courage. The One and the Ninety-Nine is a timely and inspiring wake-up call, an invitation to reject counterfeit community and develop depth of personality—to become someone who can stand alone—so that we can finally stand together.

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• Author: Luke Burgis
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 288
• ISBN-13: 9781250373038

Addressing the fundamental questions about how to live, Meditations for Mortals offers a powerful new way to take action on what counts: a guiding philosophy of life Oliver Burkeman calls “imperfectionism.” It helps us tackle challenges as they crop up in our daily lives: our finite time, the lure of distraction, the impossibility of doing anything perfectly, the feeling that the world is spinning out of control.

How can we embrace our nonnegotiable limitations? Or make good decisions when there’s always too much to do? How do we shed the illusion that life will really begin as soon as we can “get on top of everything”? Reflecting on quotations drawn from philosophy, religion, literature, psychology, and self-help, Burkeman explores a combination of practical tools and daily shifts in perspective. The result is a life-enhancing and surprising challenge to much familiar advice―and a profound yet entertaining crash course in living more fully.

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• Author: Oliver Burkeman
• Publisher: Picador
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 208 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-1250397676

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Experience the book that started the Quiet Movement and revolutionized how the world sees introverts—and how introverts see themselves—by offering validation, inclusion, and inspiration

“Superbly researched, deeply insightful, and a fascinating read, Quiet is an indispensable resource for anyone who wants to understand the gifts of the introverted half of the population.”—Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY People • O: The Oprah Magazine • Christian Science Monitor • Inc. • Library Journal • Kirkus Reviews

What are the advantages of being an introvert? They make up at least one-third of the people we know. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams. It is to introverts—Rosa Parks, Chopin, Dr. Seuss, Steve Wozniak—that we owe many of the great contributions to society.

In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so. She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture. She also introduces us to successful introverts—from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Passionately argued, impeccably researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet has the power to permanently change how you see yourself.

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• Author: Susan Cain
• Publisher: Crown
• Publication date: January 29, 2013
• Print length: 368 pages
• Print type: Paperback
• ISBN: 978-0307352156

It’s the ‘Do you have five minutes?’ message from your boss. The ‘We need to chat’ from a loved one. Those spiraling thoughts at 3 a.m. and buzz of yet another breaking news alert. The potential coming waves of AI, climate change and unstable governments.

For most of us, uncertainty is paralyzing. But learning to navigate it effectively means more confidence, less anxiety and deeper connection with others.

The Uncertainty Toolkit is a pioneering, evidence-based guide to doing just that. Drawing on the world’s most extensive study into ‘uncertainty tolerance’, led with professors from University College London, it explains the science behind how we cope with the unknown. This research is combined with the radical expertise of an unlikely group of experts – former addicts, hostages, gangland bosses and prisoners – who’ve turned their experience of extreme uncertainty into major mainstream success.

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• Author: Sam Conniff and Katherine Templar Lewis
• Publisher: Bluebird
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 320
• ISBN-13: 9781035060054

Come inside a jury room as one juror leads a starkly divided room to consensus. Join a young CIA officer as he recruits a reluctant foreign agent. And sit with an accomplished surgeon as he tries, and fails, to convince yet another cancer patient to opt for the less risky course of treatment. In Supercommunicators, Charles Duhigg blends deep research and his trademark storytelling skills to show how we can all learn to identify and leverage the hidden layers that lurk beneath every conversation.

Communication is a superpower and the best communicators understand that whenever we speak, we’re actually participating in one of three conversations: practical (What’s this really about?), emotional (How do we feel?), and social (Who are we?). If you don’t know what kind of conversation you’re having, you’re unlikely to connect.

Supercommunicators know the importance of recognizing—and then matching—each kind of conversation, and how to hear the complex emotions, subtle negotiations, and deeply held beliefs that color so much of what we say and how we listen. Our experiences, our values, our emotional lives—and how we see ourselves, and others—shape every discussion, from who will pick up the kids to how we want to be treated at work. In this book, you will learn why some people are able to make themselves heard, and to hear others, so clearly.

With his storytelling that takes us from the writers’ room of The Big Bang Theory to the couches of leading marriage counselors, Duhigg shows readers how to recognize these three conversations—and teaches us the tips and skills we need to navigate them more successfully.

In the end, he delivers a simple but powerful lesson: With the right tools, we can connect with anyone.

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• Author: Charles Duhigg
• Publisher: Random House Trade Paperbacks
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 320 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-0593243923

With so many competing priorities pulling us in different directions every day--family, friends, work, our health--it can feel difficult to make decisions that are aligned with what we care about most. Especially in the moment, we often default to the immediate demand, the path of least resistance, the worn old habit we wanted to change. In What We Value, pioneering scholar Emily Falk reveals how we can transform our relationship with the daily decisions that define our lives--opening pathways to make more purposeful, fulfilling choices; more successfully change our behavior; and influence others to see differently--by thinking like neuroscientists.

Drawing on her own award-winning research, Falk introduces readers to a new paradigm for understanding why we, and those around us, do what we do. This is the value calculation: the often-subconscious mechanism by which the brain computes our everyday choices. By learning how it works, Falk shows, we can learn to work more strategically with it--whether we want to embrace new activities and behaviors, connect more meaningfully with others, or become more effective leaders in our organizations and communities. With captivating stories of star comedians, journalists, sports legends, and more, Falk demonstrates how we can change what we think just by changing what we think about; get less defensive by connecting with our core values; and seed innovation by seeking out different perspectives.

Whether deciding on something as small as what to eat for lunch or as big as what career to pursue, we can have more agency and flexibility than we might think. What We Value is a groundbreaking guide to finding new possibilities in our choices--and the lives we ultimately make with them.

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• Author: Emily Falk
• Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 304
• ISBN-13: 9781324130710

One hundred years ago Sigmund Freud published The Interpretations of Dreams, a book that, like Darwin's The Origin of Species, revolutionized our understanding of human nature.

Now this groundbreaking new translation--the first to be based on the original text published in November 1899--brings us a more readable, more accurate, and more coherent picture of Freud's masterpiece.
The first edition of The Interpretation of Dreams is much shorter than its subsequent editions; each time the text was reissued, from 1909 onwards, Freud added to it.
The most significant, and in many ways the most unfortunate addition, is a 50-page section devoted to the kind of mechanical reading of dream symbolism--long objects equal male genitalia, etc.--that has gained popular currency and partially obscured Freud's more profound insights into dreams.

In the original version presented here, Freud's emphasis falls more clearly on the use of words in dreams and on the difficulty of deciphering them.
Without the strata of later additions, readers will find here a clearer development of Freud's central ideas--of dream as wish-fulfillment, of the dream's manifest and latent content, of the retelling of dreams as a continuation of the dreamwork, and much more.
Joyce Crick's translation is lighter and faster-moving than previous versions, enhancing the sense of dialogue with the reader, one of Freud's stylistic strengths, and allowing us to follow Freud's theory as it evolved through difficult cases, apparently intractable counter-examples, and fascinating analyses of Freud's own dreams.

The restoration of Freud's classic is a major event, giving us in a sense a new work by one of this century' most startling, original, and influential thinkers.

In his landmark bestseller The Tipping Point, Malcolm Gladwell redefined how we understand the world around us. Now, in Blink, he revolutionizes the way we understand the world within.

Blink is a book about how we think without thinking, about choices that seem to be made in an instant-in the blink of an eye-that actually aren't as simple as they seem. Why are some people brilliant decision makers, while others are consistently inept? Why do some people follow their instincts and win, while others end up stumbling into error? How do our brains really work-in the office, in the classroom, in the kitchen, and in the bedroom? And why are the best decisions often those that are impossible to explain to others?

In Blink we meet the psychologist who has learned to predict whether a marriage will last, based on a few minutes of observing a couple; the tennis coach who knows when a player will double-fault before the racket even makes contact with the ball; the antiquities experts who recognize a fake at a glance. Here, too, are great failures of "blink": the election of Warren Harding; "New Coke"; and the shooting of Amadou Diallo by police.

Blink reveals that great decision makers aren't those who process the most information or spend the most time deliberating, but those who have perfected the art of "thin-slicing"-filtering the very few factors that matter from an overwhelming number of variables.

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• Author: Malcolm Gladwell
• Publisher: Back Bay Books
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 296 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-0316010665

Why do some people instantly draw you in, while others give you the ick? In Why We Click, Kate Murphy, author of the international bestseller You’re Not Listening, explores the emerging science and powerful impact of interpersonal synchrony, the most consequential social dynamic that most people have never heard of.

What is interpersonal synchrony? The seemingly magical — and now scientifically documented — tendency of human beings to fall into rhythm and find resonance with one another.

Why We Click will help you discover how to:

• Instantly connect with anyone
• Read the room before anyone else
• Stop negativity from spreading
• Nail first impressions — every time
• Change the energy of any conversation
• Become naturally magnetic
• Control the vibe you bring into the room

The result? Emotions, moods, attitudes, and behaviors can be as infectious as any disease — and just as impactful on our health and well-being. From the bedroom to the boardroom, Murphy shows how our instinct to sync can shape our behavior and how our deepest desires to connect, to click, are so often thwarted in modern life

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• Author: Kate Murphy
• Publisher: Celadon Books
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 320
• ISBN-13: 9781250352453

What makes us peek at a car wreck or binge-watch true crime shows late into the night? Why are some of us drawn to horror movies while others shudder at the thought? In Morbidly Curious, scientist Coltan Scrivner takes readers on a thrilling journey into the psychology of morbid curiosity, uncovering why we can’t resist the macabre. From grisly serial killers to spine-chilling paranormal stories, Scrivner reveals the psychological forces that compel us to explore our darkest fears—and explains how this proclivity is more than just a quirk. It’s a powerful survival instinct, helping us mentally prepare for real-world threats, all from the safety of our imaginations.

Blending fascinating insights and cutting-edge research at haunted houses across the world, Scrivner makes a powerful argument for the value of playing with fear and embracing the gruesome. Whether you're a horror fan yourself or just want to better understand the true crime craze, Morbidly Curious will open your eyes to the hidden benefits of exploring the dark side of human nature.

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• Author: Coltan Scrivner PhD
• Publisher: Penguin Books
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 272 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-0143137344

Filled with secrets from a therapist's toolkit, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before teaches you how to fortify and maintain your mental health, even in the most trying of times. Dr Julie Smith’s expert advice and powerful coping techniques will help you stay resilient, whether you want to manage anxiety, deal with criticism, cope with depression, build self-confidence, find motivation, or learn to forgive yourself. Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before tackles everyday issues and offers practical solutions in bite-sized, easy-to-digest entries which make it easy to quickly find specific information and guidance.

Your mental well-being is just as important as your physical well-being. Packed with proven strategies, Dr. Julie’s empathetic guide offers a deeper understanding of how your mind works and gives you the insights and help you need to nurture your mental health every day. Wise and practical, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before might just change your life.

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• Author: Julie Smith
• Publisher: HarperOne
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 368 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-0063227941

The Coaching Habit “un-weirded” coaching and made it practical and accessible to everyone. Ten years on, and that skill has never been more relevant.

It’s not just for coaches. It’s for managers, leaders, parents… in fact anyone who works and lives with other people. Being more coach-like and staying curious longer with those around you helps you connect more deeply, focus on what matters, and bring out each other’s best.

Discover what more than a million readers have already learned about how to unlock peoples’ potential by understanding the simple power of seven essential coaching questions. Its practical wisdom is grounded in neuroscience and behavioral economics research and enhanced with additional video support.

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• Author: Michael Bungay Stanier
• Publisher: Page Two
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 320
• ISBN-13: 9781774586655

Life's too short for all that emotional heavy lifting. The Let That Sh*t Go Guide to Life is the helpful shove you need to give fewer f*cks and to throw both arms around the good stuff. Sprinkled with positive profanity and silly self-awareness, this glittering path to contentment offers friend-to-friend advice for understanding the stress that zaps its way into your day, letting go of the chaos you can't control, and realizing that you don't have to have it all figured out to be happy. Whether you're struggling with work, goal setting, love, friendship, or just not being so f*cking hard on yourself, this delightfully un-self-helpy book shows you how to make your life a little bit lighter, a little more joyful, and a little more yours.

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• Author: Monica Sweeney
• Publisher: Castle Point Books
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 224
• ISBN-13: 9781250407283

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives

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• Author: Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
• Publisher: Penguin Books
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 464 pages
• ISBN-13: 978-0143127741

Most of us have an adversarial relationship with time. We're constantly trying to beat the clock--behavior rooted in a fear that time is scarce and must be obsessed over, hoarded, and ultraoptimized. But what if there is a different way to view time, one that could make our hours feel abundant? What if we believed that we had enough time to advance our careers, enjoy meaningful relationships, pursue hobbies, and more? In Big Time, time management expert Laura Vanderkam shows us how to make this our reality.

Drawing on original research about how hundreds of real people spend their time and her own experience of tracking her time for a decade, Vanderkam shows how even busy people can come to feel that time is abundant. Big Time offers simple, tested tactics with high impact, such as developing a "ringmaster" mindset; breaking big goals into daily, bite-sized pieces; and making little bets within a schedule to increase the odds of a breakthrough. Through actionable advice for managing a complex life, Vanderkam demonstrates how we can feel liberated by the time we have, instead of restrained by it.

By turns surprising, thought-provoking, and encouraging, Big Time shows readers that the daily experience of time can be quite spacious--and that, managed well, each day's hours can be a source of happiness and satisfaction.

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• Author: Laura Vanderkam
• Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company
• Print Type: Hardcover
• Page Count: 224
• ISBN-13: 9781324110750

Have you ever heard someone say, “I’m trying to make it work,” and thought, “That sounds like a great idea”? Probably not. Because the thing about trying is that it’s tiring; it’s labor. Anyone who has tried to have fun or to relax or to fall asleep knows this to be true.

And yet: we exist within a culture that encourages us—often with a frantic urgency—to try, and try harder. We are told to try a different approach, try to do or be better, try to squeeze in a little bit more. This is especially true of women, who not only have to try harder than men to receive access to the same opportunities and resources, but who are also conditioned to try in the name of meeting others' needs and expectations, often at the expense of their own well-being.

In this galvanizing and illuminating read, Kate tackles hustle culture head-on, exploring the ways in which women are primed to become relentless strivers. From the workplace to motherhood, from relationships to “self-care”—no arena of a woman’s life is safe from the pressure to exceed expectations. This conflation of self-worth with achievement, she argues, is both toxic and counterproductive, as the qualities we most seek—happiness, meaning, purpose—are not earned but rather owned.

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• Author: Kate Williams
• Publisher: Flatiron Books
• Print Type: Paperback
• Page Count: 272
• ISBN-13: 9781250340924